November 24, 2010
After quite a long hiatus, it seems fitting to me that I would want to continue with the song dissections this month with a very important song to me lyrically and containing one of the most important lyrics I feel I’ve ever written. One year ago this fall I had the opportunity to do some European touring that would essentially take me away from home from October to early January. To do this touring, I had to make the decision to give up the securities of my “real job”. I told myself it would be ok, and in order to focus on music, one sometimes has to make sacrifices. So much has happened to me in the past year personally and professionally. I’m quite proud of myself that I had the courage last fall to go for something that was so important to me. I would recommend taking a risk to anyone. You might fall down a few times along the way but that’s what makes life exhilarating, and the head rush when you stand up again is worth it all! (There’s your motivational speech of the day!)
Girl on the Floor, is the ending track on the Hearts For Bullets CD and it took about 2 years to finish writing as I was never quite satisfied with the melodies and structure I had started with, but not wanting to abandon the song, I kept coming back to it and put it through several incarnations until I was happy with it. It was always had upbeat poppy styled music, but the lyrics went through many re-writes. The end result is a deeply personal song about me, not really wanting to continue with Ayria or music at all believe it or not. I keep mentioning this, but after my father passed away, I wasn’t able to write music for several months. I went numb, tried to hold on to stability in my life any way I could and didn’t really think about Ayria. Long time friends and fans might remember this, but back in 2007, the week I was supposed to leave on tour for a U.S. leg with Combichrist with 3 starting shows in Florida, my dad passed away and I had to cancel the first 3 shows. The only other time I’ve canceled a show was when we were snowed in at an airport in Russia and missed one of the 3 Russian tour dates.. that’s another awful story! Anyway, I did join the tour the following week through the Southern States to L.A. but all I remember was being really numb. I remember being in my bunk on the bus not thinking, not feeling, just playing shows and being social to distract myself. Later that fall, I stopped writing songs, I dyed my hair back to it’s natural brown (GASP! I’m not a natural blonde!?) I focused on my day job & distanced myself from anything Ayria or music related. It may seem strange that I’m sharing all of this with you now, I’m not the dramatic type. I prefer to face and conquer my struggles internally. I’m opening up here, because it’s been 3 years, and I know some of you appreciate these song dissections, and my complete honesty, and knowing the dark corners where songs come from. To summarize it as best I can, Girl on the floor is a bit about my struggles with grief, but more so: My loss of appetite for what I was passionate about, thinking about giving up on music, feeling guilty about my life choices, my feelings of lack of self control over my life, feeling guilty about not giving enough to those around me & relationships that were important to me, and maybe guilt over apathy & selfishness. There.
So this dissection is more about the story and the lyrics rather than the music production, because that’s what I want to talk about, just some of the lyrics that stand out to me personally:
“Mirror Mirror on the wall, I’m just a girl with no self-control”
It was true, and sometimes I still feel like I have no self-control in certain situations. Some days I eat too much, I drink too much, I make bad decisions and when I wrote that lyric I felt like a broken girl facing my inner demons. Occasionally, I get caught up in things people have said or written about me online that isn’t very positive or constructive. I’d like to believe my skin is thick, and it really has become thicker with time, but occasionally something will get under my skin. The lyric “you don’t know the real me but you get a glimpse so you paint a picture. So vivid, but just so wrong” addresses that, as everyone can relate to being misjudged or feeling that no one knows the real them.
“I just want to leave the situation
I don’t want to reach this destination
Can’t you see I’ve lost the motivation”
I still get weird chills singing the chorus of this song live, as it represents the desperate part of me that lost the drive to do what I once loved.
“You ask what I want, it’s complicated, the truth is I don’t know.”
I think that’s fairly straightforward. Pretending things are so complicated, and maybe they are, but in my case, saying that things are complicated helps to hide the truth that I just don’t know the answers or that I felt lost.
“It’s not enough to be there sometimes”: I felt like I was giving myself to some areas of my life, and some people but not fully. I felt stretched pretty thin, and wasn’t able to give any one thing, the best of me. It’s also based in a bit of regret of not spending enough time with my dad I guess.
“I’m too tired to fake the strength behind this lie.”
When it came to doing music and Ayria, I felt like I couldn’t even fake it even, which is why I left it alone and didn’t try and write. Sometimes when you’re going through tough times, it’s not always the best idea to dive into what you love. In my specific case, giving myself distance was the best thing so I could continue doing it and appreciate it more.
The bridge of this song was the most powerful part of this song for me musically and lyrically. It really gave it an epic feeling. Seb’s (Komor – my producer for any new readers of this blog) addition of piano chords in the production of this song, was totally awe-inspiring. My demo version DID have a break down but had simpler synth strings, I felt the piano layers he added a delicateness and sadness to a fairly upbeat song and helped my favourite lyrical part stand out:
“And now I sit here all alone and bored
My head is filled with, advice I once ignored”:
The clichéd saying that all you’ve ever needed has been right here in front of you. Well, this was my take on that realization of being so wrapped up in your self, your guilt, your insecurities, or only looking to the future, that you ignored all the advice that you should have taken.
Bringing me to my favourite lyrics EVER:
“All you get from this moment, is all you gave to your past
and all you’ll get from this moment, is what you gave to your past”
Simple. But it’s my favourite. Is what I’m doing now, affecting what I will be in the future? Have I even cared enough or has it all just slipped by? I hope it made others think about what they are giving to their now and how it will affect them in the future. There’s so much backstabbing, pettiness, bitching, self-pity, whining and complaining out there. If that’s your contribution to your now.. then I’m wondering what you feel you’re so deserving of? What have you done in your life, or worked hard at that brings you to this moment and what you’ll get out of it, because previous inputs = currently outputs. I’m over explaining it but but it made me think about my own life and actions. This lyric just continually sticks with me.
“I’m turning to the next one, we laugh for a moment.
I’m crying on the bathroom floor because nothing is the same”
This is absolute truth. One day I did end up just crying on the bathroom floor feeling that my life was out of control, and that I was losing grip on the things and especially some of the people in my life that were really important that I hadn’t realized I had taken for granted. That was a turning point for me to pick myself back up off the floor and change some things and start moving on.
I’m of course in a better place now, my passion and motivation obviously returned and keeps me going. These emotions I write about were the extreme ones that covered about a year’s worth of experiences! Songs are my outlets, and I know we all go through these periods of our lives so I’ve always known this song was relatable to alot of you. It’s strange but I think a bigger fear for me is that one day I WON’T feel these extreme emotions from time to time. These crazy intense overwhelming emotions that force me to face myself and think about my life, then what would I write about? Heh. So, this was a pretty emotional dissection. But this is a pretty emotional song about things that are important to me. I didn’t touch much on the music and programming, but only because I felt this song was so important to me lyrically. I’ll try and do more music talk on future dissections. This is actually the song I get the most comments from fans saying it helped them through a tough time (next to “Invisible” from HFB & “Lovely Day” from the Flicker CD) & that means more than anything for me to hear.
Weird Tidbits about the song structure
– If you’ve listened to this song, you’ll notice the first and second verses start with the same lyrical idea: “Mirror Mirror on the wall..” but that the melodies and the rhythm of the vocals are completely different in each verse? It’s kind of a mistake, I couldn’t decide between how the first verse flowed and the second. When it came time to finish the song, I couldn’t decide so I left the verses different, hoping the lyrical link of the first line would make it ok.
– The song is often confusing to members of my family since it’s so boppy and pop like sounding, but the lyrics are so sad. I think it’s funny that they can’t understand it. I say to them “it’s what I do! I like upbeat dance music, but I can’t help but write about sad themes!!” ;P
Despite the serious nature and theme of this song to me personally, for some reason I had the giggles, while recording this song. I blame it on the fact that I hadn’t practiced the song enough before recording (you’ll hear I mess up the chorus a lot which is now second nature to me!) This song’s been surrounded by deliriousness… even one of the many working versions sent back and forth between Seb and I during production, one version he had titled “Girl On the Floor looking for her slurpie but can’t find the vodka” So here’s a blooper take of me recording the chorus layer for the song. I can’t believe I’m sharing this with you since I sound TERRIBLE (This is clearly not the final takes used! 😉 You can hear Joe Byer of v01d in the background, whose studio I used to record vocals for this CD (before I got my own studio set up).
New music is on its way! Only a few more songs to record for my upcoming CD out sometime in 2011 and I can’t wait to share it with you! 😉
My Question To You: Have you ever lost the motivation to pursue what you love? How did you get back on track and find yourself and find motivation again? I’m just curious about others experiences.